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Oct 23
14m 20s

He’s Needy, My Boss Is Oppressive, and I...

Trista Guertin
About this episode

In this episode of This Daring Adventure, I share a powerful coaching session that reveals the real reason so many women feel stuck — in their relationships, careers, and lives.

When you believe thoughts like “He’s needy,” “My boss is oppressive,” or “It’s hard to make friends as an adult,” it feels like you’re just stating facts. But these thoughts aren’t neutral — they’re creating your emotional experience.

Through the story of one client who thought her relationship and career were falling apart, Trista shows how our brains quietly turn interpretations into “truths,” and how this keeps us disconnected and dissatisfied.

You’ll learn:

  • Why the way you think about someone is your real relationship with them.
  • How to separate facts from stories and stop fighting reality.
  • Why scarcity thinking makes you overwork, overdrink, and overreact.
  • How to shift your thoughts to instantly change how you feel — without changing anyone else.

If you’re ready to stop believing that life has to change before you can feel better, this episode will show you exactly where your power lies — in your mind.

Key Topics Covered

  • The “needy boyfriend” model and how thoughts create distance
  • Why your brain mistakes opinions for facts
  • Rewriting your story about relationships, work, and friends
  • Moving from scarcity to abundance in your thinking
  • The secret to changing your life without changing your circumstances

Quotable Moments

“You think you’re just reporting the news — but really, you’re narrating your life into existence.”

“You don’t need your boss, your partner, or your circumstances to change. Your life changes when your thoughts do.”

“You can change your job, your city, or your relationship — but if you don’t change your thinking, you take the same results with you.”


If this episode hits home, and you’re ready to see how your thoughts are shaping your life, book a free one-hour coaching session with Trista.

You’ll bring one area of your life — your relationship, your job, or that feeling of being stuck — and she’ll show you exactly how to change it from the inside out.

👉 Book your free coaching session

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