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Aug 2025
16m 53s

Am I Allowed to Enjoy the Male Gaze?

Zoë Lilou
About this episode

Last week we unpacked the male gaze - this week, we’re discussing what happens when you like it. Is using your desirability as a power tool empowering… or just patriarchal? We’re talking capitalism, beauty standards, Julia Fox, my internal patriarchy committee, and yes, the one time I had my titties out and men treated me like royalty.

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