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Oct 3
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How to Stay Calm When Someone Triggers Y...

Todd Perelmuter
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Why do we suffer from mean words? What is the real root cause of this suffering? Why do words directed at us hurt more than watching those same words on TV? What is getting hurt? And is there a way to stop getting angry and upset by the cruelty and unkindness of others?

In this podcast, I do a deep dive into the root cause of this particularly difficult and all too common form of suffering. I talk about what role trauma plays in us getting triggered. And I share some simple but powerful ways to stay cool and calm in every situation.

Sometimes people just want to push our buttons. They want to make us miserable. They want to tear us down. Here's how to be on guard and defend yourself.

Please enjoy other episodes where I share meditation techniques, tips and spiritual lessons from around the world for peaceful and stress-free living. Remember to subscribe to stay up-to-date.

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