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Sep 26
15m 14s

Using Sports to Strengthen Father-Child ...

Larry Hagner
About this episode

In this solo episode of the Dad Edge Podcast, I dive into the valuable life lessons we as fathers can teach our kids through sports—lessons that go far beyond winning or losing. Whether it's about praising effort over outcomes, sharing personal stories of hard work, or simply playing together with no agenda, I explore how to build stronger bonds and greater resilience in our kids through these moments.

This episode is a call to reframe how we show up on the sidelines and in life. Sports can be more than competition—they can be a platform for presence, growth, and connection. If you want to raise grounded, hardworking kids who aren’t afraid of putting in the reps, this episode is for you.


TIMELINE SUMMARY
[0:00] - Kicking off the episode with intention and a mission for fatherhood
[1:02] - The busy fall season: sports, school, and parenting chaos
[2:22] - Why we must praise effort—not just outcomes—with our kids
[3:46] - Childhood memories and the impact of working hard without reward
[5:02] - Growth mindset: effort over results builds long-term confidence
[6:29] - Combating entitlement by teaching consistent hard work
[7:27] - Celebrating preparation, not just game-day performance
[8:07] - Sharing real stories of hard work from our own lives with our kids
[9:18] - Why credibility with your kids is built through relatable stories
[9:38] - The power of play: connecting with our kids through shared activity
[10:21] - Taekwondo with my son and football with another—just having fun
[11:12] - Why the end result matters less than the connection
[11:49] - A practical call to action: ask your kids what they learned from sports this week
[12:26] - Don’t let your kids off the hook—push for real answers
[13:04] - Reflecting on the last quarter of the year and what’s ahead
[13:39] - A warning for business owners: don’t build an empire and lose your family
[14:19] - Links to join The Alliance or Business Boardroom
[14:42] - Final recap and reminder to praise effort, share stories, and play together


5 KEY TAKEAWAYS

1. Praise Effort, Not Just Results
When we focus on our kids’ preparation, persistence, and grit rather than wins or trophies, we help them develop a growth mindset that builds confidence and resilience.

2. Real-Life Stories Create Connection
Sharing your own stories of hard work, sacrifice, and struggle makes your guidance more credible and relatable—and shows your kids you’ve been in their shoes.

3. Play Without a Purpose
Connection often happens in the unstructured moments. Whether it's football or taekwondo, playing with your kids for the sake of fun builds trust and memories.

4. Ask Better Questions
Instead of asking “How was practice?”, ask “What did you learn this week from sports?” Push them to reflect and communicate their growth and insights.

5. Lead Without Losing What Matters
Whether you're a career man or building a business, don’t trade connection with your wife or kids for productivity. Build both—intentionally.


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