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Oct 5
1h 8m

Using Your Rock Bottom Story & Struggles...

Larry Hagner
About this episode

In this episode of the Dad Edge Podcast, I sit down with Doug Bopst—former felon, now personal trainer, author, and transformational speaker—to unpack how adversity, addiction, and rock-bottom moments can become the fuel for growth, purpose, and fatherhood. Doug opens up about his journey from incarceration and drug addiction to becoming a man of impact and integrity.

 

We explore how pain can become power when ownership is embraced, how faith and fitness became Doug’s lifeline, and why men must choose responsibility over blame to rewrite their story. This episode is a raw and redemptive look at what happens when a man stops running and starts leading—with heart, humility, and grit.

 


 

TIMELINE SUMMARY

[0:00] - Welcome and Doug’s powerful backstory: from pills to prison

[3:48] - The moment everything changed: awakening behind bars

[6:22] - Fitness as a path to discipline, clarity, and redemption

[9:10] - Rebuilding trust with family through consistent action

[11:36] - The identity shift from addict to athlete to leader

[14:44] - Why your past doesn’t disqualify you from fatherhood or purpose

[17:32] - How Doug uses his pain to mentor young men and fathers

[20:01] - The role of faith in healing and daily direction

[23:10] - Accountability and structure as freedom—not limitation

[25:38] - Why your mess can become your message

[28:19] - The impact of small daily wins over massive overhauls

[30:56] - Final reflections on masculinity, resilience, and second chances

 


 

5 KEY TAKEAWAYS

 

1. Your Past Doesn’t Define You—Your Choices Do

Doug proves that where you come from doesn’t have to determine where you’re going. Redemption starts when you take full ownership.

2. Fitness Can Be a Spiritual Practice

Exercise became Doug’s anchor. It wasn’t just about the body—it became a tool for mental clarity, emotional regulation, and self-worth.

3. Consistency Rebuilds Trust

Doug didn’t win back respect overnight. It was through showing up daily—at home, at work, in faith—that others started believing in him again.

4. Your Story Can Heal Others

When you share your scars instead of hiding them, you give others permission to grow. Doug’s journey now empowers men to rise from their lowest points.

5. Discipline Is the Gateway to Freedom

True freedom doesn’t come from avoiding pain. It comes from building structure, owning your role, and becoming someone your family can count on.

 

 


 

LINKS & RESOURCES

 

  • Connect with Doug Bopst: https://www.dougbopst.com/free

  • The Dad Edge Alliance: https://www.thedadedge.com/alliance

  • 25 Questions to Spark Connection With Your Partner: https://www.thedadedge.com/25questions

  • Podcast Hub: https://www.thedadedge.com/podcast

  • Tools & Resources: https://www.thedadedge.com/tools

 


 

If this episode inspired you to own your past and step into your potential, follow, rate, review, and share the podcast. Your comeback story starts now.

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