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Have you ever said “yes” when everything inside of you wanted to say “no”? Maybe it was helping out when you were already stretched thin, or agreeing to avoid letting someone down. That guilty tug you feel afterward isn’t proof you’re selfish - it’s often a sign you need healthier boundaries. In this episode, we’ll discuss how to set boundaries without guilt, how Jesus modeled them, and how they can actually strengthen your relationships instead of straining them.

Rooting for you,
Jessica

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