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Sep 24
42m 52s

The Father’s Role in Teaching Confidence...

Larry Hagner
About this episode

In this episode of the Dad Edge Podcast, my son Ethan and I open up about the kind of conversations that strengthen the bond between fathers and sons. We explore what it really means to show up with respect, emotional maturity, presence, and perspective—both as a parent and as a young man growing into adulthood.

 

From handling difficult emotions and making space for deeper connection to the importance of ownership and emotional regulation, this episode is filled with raw insights and real-life tools for leading your kids—especially your sons—toward a more grounded and respectful life. Whether you’re a dad trying to better understand your son or a young man looking to grow into his role, this one hits home.

 


 

TIMELINE SUMMARY

[0:00] - Welcome and today’s topic: respect, ownership, and emotional maturity

[1:14] - Why dads and sons need hard conversations for deeper connection

[2:33] - Teaching kids emotional control without shutting down their feelings

[3:58] - Ethan’s take on what “being present” looks like from a son’s perspective

[6:27] - Why kids don’t always need advice—they need you to listen

[8:22] - The impact of dads staying calm when kids are upset

[11:15] - A story about “being too close to the situation” and losing perspective

[13:47] - Ethan’s advice to young men about taking responsibility and thinking bigger

[15:01] - When life feels overwhelming: how to pause and regain emotional footing

[17:26] - Teaching sons that vulnerability and strength are not opposites

[19:44] - Lessons from past episodes and how guests influence Ethan’s perspective

[21:10] - Navigating performance pressure as a young man in today’s world

[23:42] - What Ethan is learning about balancing ambition and contentment

[26:03] - Managing stress and comparison in the digital age

[29:18] - The father-son dynamic around goals, growth, and personal responsibility

[31:51] - Ethan shares what helps him feel most connected to his dad

[34:22] - Why consistency beats intensity in relationships and leadership

[36:09] - The importance of checking in emotionally, not just logistically

[38:45] - Final reflections on fatherhood, growth, and relational leadership

[41:36] - Closing encouragement and reminder to lead with presence and love

 


 

5 KEY TAKEAWAYS

 

1. Respect Starts With Presence

Kids don’t feel respected when they’re interrupted or corrected mid-emotion. Simply being present—listening without jumping in—builds trust that lasts.

2. Emotional Regulation Is Learned, Not Inherited

Children learn emotional control from what we model. Calm fathers create calm environments where kids feel safe to feel.

3. You Can’t Solve What You Don’t See Clearly

Reacting emotionally without pausing for perspective often escalates the situation. Teaching our kids to “zoom out” is a lifelong skill.

4. Sons Need Ownership, Not Rescue

Letting our sons take responsibility—even when they mess up—builds confidence and teaches them to lead themselves.

5. Vulnerability Builds Strength

Helping boys understand that being vulnerable doesn’t make them weak—it makes them real—is key to raising emotionally intelligent men.

 

 


 

LINKS & RESOURCES

 

 

 


 

If this episode helped you see father-son connection in a new light, please rate, review, follow, and share the podcast. Let’s raise a generation of men who lead with heart, discipline, and perspective.

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