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Sep 23
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EP457 - Is It Cheating? The Don’t Ask, D...

Dr. Nazanin Moali, Ph.d, Psychology Of Sex | Couple Therapy | Sex Education
About this episode

Welcome to Episode 457 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I'm excited to be joined by Kevin Patterson who speaks to me about polyamory, representation, and emotional literacy.


In this conversation, Kevin shares his journey into consensual non-monogamy and the inspiration behind Poly Role Models, a project designed to broaden representation of polyamory beyond narrow stereotypes. 


Kevin Patterson is an active member of the Philadelphia polyamory community. He's been practicing ethical nonmonogamy since August of 2002 after opening up a relationship that eventually became his marriage. In April of 2015, Kevin was inspired to start Poly Role Models, an interview series for people describing their experiences with polyamory. Poly Role Models was part of a drive and a desire to change the way our lives and communities are viewed. To continue that discussion of polyamorous representation, Kevin has extended the blog's work into the writing of the book, Love's Not Color Blind: Race and Representation in Polyamorous and Other Alternative Communities. 


In this episode, you will hear:


·      Origins Of Poly Role Models

·      Breaking Stereotypes In Polyamory

·      Representation Beyond White Narratives

·      Cheating Versus Consensual Non-Monogamy

·      The Pitfalls Of Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell

·      Race And Identity In Non-Monogamy

·      Navigating Jealousy With Emotional Literacy

·      Building Healthier Conversations In Relationships

·      Creating Safer And More Inclusive Spaces

·      Kevin’s Work In Fiction And Superhero Storytelling


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