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Sep 2025
48m 25s

Wedding “Rules” Are Dead, with Jaleigh F...

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#212. Forget everything you think you know about wedding planning. Jaleigh Friend, founder of The Friend Club and veteran of 1,500+ couple consultations, is here to demolish the outdated rules keeping your wedding from feeling authentic. We’re talking about which traditions you can toss, how to handle family pushback when you go rogue, and why the “rules” mi ... Show More
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