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Sep 16
40m 4s

It’s Not Just You: The Myth of Limitless...

DR. ALEXANDRA SOLOMON
About this episode

Have you ever felt like your resilience is being pushed to its limits, especially in the chaotic and complex world we live in today? Dr. Alexandra sits down with organizational psychologist, researcher, and New York Times best-selling author Dr. Tasha Eurich to delve into the insights from her new book, Shatterproof: How to Thrive in a World of Constant Chaos (and Why Resilience Alone Isn’t Enough). In this conversation, they discuss the myths of resilience, as well as what a “resilience ceiling” is and how to identify when we’ve hit it. Most importantly, they talk about how to understand the limits of resilience so that we don’t, as Dr. Tasha would call it, “grit gaslight” ourselves when our usual coping strategies don’t work the way they used to.

You'll come away from this episode with:

  • A clearer understanding of the limitations of resilience and how to identify when you’ve reached your 'resilience ceiling’.
  • A renewed perspective on the importance of acknowledging struggles as part of personal growth and healing (stoicism isn't the answer here!).
  • Practical strategies and tools to enhance your self-awareness and well-being, such as Dr. Tasha’s self-assessment for determining how much of our self-definition is about our work and ambition, and her 2-2-2 tool for managing overwhelm.
  • Insights into the essential emotional needs that foster deeper connections in your relationships.

Resources worth mentioning from the episode:

  • The Resilience Ceiling Quiz

https://resilience-quiz.com/

  • Shatterproof: How to Thrive in a World of Constant Chaos (And Why Resilience Alone Isn't Enough) by Tasha Eurich

https://bookshop.org/p/books/shatterproof-how-to-thrive-in-a-world-of-constant-chaos-and-why-resilience-alone-isn-t-enough-tasha-eurich/9f0e6a8876113ed0

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