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Sep 15
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Why Self-Hate Is Draining Your Bank Acco...

Friends That Invest
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This week, Sim unpacks why the real secret to saving money is self-esteem, not strict budgets, and how low self-worth and fear of judgment can drive compulsive shopping. She breaks down the science behind retail therapy and dopamine, the real signs of overspending, and the myth that women shop more while showing how comparison culture keeps us swiping. You’ll leave with practical, research-backed steps to stop impulse buys and save more, like the 48-hour rule, deleting shopping apps, buying for you not for likes, and building confidence or seeking therapy when needed.

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