What if shame wasn’t the enemy but the doorway?

In this episode I sit down with my dear friend, pole dance teacher, and new author Wendy Diaz, who writes under the pen name Selene Ashé. She’s just released her first book Diary of a Bad Bitch, a work that blends memoir and erotic nonfiction.

We get into her journey with pole dance as a path of self-expression, the permission it creates for women to explore their sensuality, and the way her writing opens space for honest, vulnerable conversations about sexuality and creativity.

You’ll Learn:

Why pole dance can feel like an initiation for women
What it feels like to face waves of shame and discover safety in sensual expression
The link between childhood innocence and adult erotic energy
Why female versus male gaze changes everything in dance and performance
The quiet damage of women judging each other’s expression, and what happens when that shifts
Why creativity should be treated as a daily priority rather than a side project
The raw process of writing erotic nonfiction and why using a pen name mattered to her
What it takes to set the stage for authentic movement and see where the body leads
The enduring truth that sexuality and pleasure are always available, even after disconnection

Timestamps:

[00:00] Introduction

[07:14] The permission field of pole dance and moving through shame

[13:27] Creativity expanding into tattooing, drawing, and blood painting

[19:04] Female versus male gaze in performance and dance videos

[25:11] Navigating invisibility, fame, and the desire for attention

[31:45] Erotic reclamation, archetypes, and sexual exploration through pole

[37:42] Writing her book and choosing a pen name

[42:51] Building conscious cabaret as a safe performance space

[45:58] Sensuality, sexuality, and the role of slowing down

[54:12] Why pleasure and sexuality are always available

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Resources Mentioned:

Diary of a Bad Bitch by Selene Ashé | Book

Fifty Shades of Grey by E. L. James | Book or Audiobook

Conscious Cabaret | Website and Instagram

Get Selene’s new book out now: The Diary of a Bad Bitch. True stories of sensuality, self discovery and spiritual alchemy. Available online and at www.seleneashe.com

You can connect with Selene and her work on Instagram here.

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