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Sep 4
32m 29s

The Shy Guy’s Advantage: 5 Approaching S...

Connell Barrett
About this episode
Approaching women as a shy, introverted guy can feel terrifying. But that shyness is actually your hidden advantage. In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett reveals 5 powerful shifts to help introverts confidently meet women in real life. You’ll also discover his go-to icebreaker that almost always works.

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