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Jun 2023
22m 51s

How to Get Your Child to Talk to You (Ev...

Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist
About this episode

We all want our kids to feel safe coming to us when they’re struggling. We want them to talk to us about their problems, tell us how they’re feeling, and generally keep us up to date on their lives. But how do we create the sort of parent-child relationship where our kids feel safe sharing even the hard stuff with us? 

 

In this week’s episode, I answer a listener who’s wondering exactly this, particularly as her pre-teen sons inch closer to adolescence. I uncover the single most important thing we can do to foster a relationship where our kids feel safe sharing even the hard stuff with us – and I share my 5 tips for becoming the kind of listener that will keep your child talking to you, even about the hard stuff.

 

Here’s the thing: Our kids need us, especially when they’re struggling. But sometimes as parents we inadvertently do things that make our kids feel hesitant or even unsafe sharing tough stuff with us. After listening to today’s episode, you’ll know exactly how to listen so your child will feel comfortable talking!

 

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