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Sep 2
22m 30s

The Power of a Shared Vision in Marriage...

Aaron & Jocelyn Freeman
About this episode

What keeps couples united through all the ups and downs? A shared vision. In this episode of the Empowered Couples Podcast, we break down why having a vision together is essential, how to define your values as a couple, and the practical steps to keep you connected in both everyday life and during challenges.

Whether you’re in a hard season or just feeling stuck in routine, your vision as a couple is what pulls you out of the mundane and gives deeper meaning to your marriage.

In this episode you will hear:

-Why self-focus leads to more negativity (and how vision shifts that)

-The 4 steps to creating a shared vision for your marriage and family

-How values guide tough choices around career, parenting, and money

-Ways to connect daily life back to your bigger purpose together

-How to turn challenges into growth and strengthen your bond long-term

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Timestamps of Episode:
0:00 – Why self-focus increases negativity
0:18 – How vision helps you think beyond yourself
0:34 – The danger of losing sight of your shared values
0:47 – Making hard choices aligned with your vision
1:00 – Looking back on challenges with pride
1:19 – Welcome + episode introduction
1:55 – Why vision bonds couples from the beginning
2:14 – Losing sight of “why” in everyday life
2:38 – Announcement: The Best of Us 30-Day Challenge
3:18 – Why vision is collaborative and long-term
3:40 – The psychology of self-consciousness & negative emotion
4:23 – How lack of vision creates conflict cycles
4:39 – Seeing hard seasons in the bigger picture
5:18 – Finding meaning even in the mundane days
6:26 – Step 1: Moving from present pain to future vision
7:52 – How vision brings relief and peace
9:09 – Parenting example: values guiding hard choices
10:17 – Step 2: Defining higher values and purpose
11:25 – Career choices and money vs. vision
12:37 – Step 3: Creating a simple, memorable vision statement
13:47 – Aligning vision with values, actions, and results
15:29 – Expanding your vision beyond your family
16:06 – Vision boards and visual reminders
16:29 – Step 4: Connecting present challenges back to vision
17:09 – Real parenting example from our daughter
18:43 – Seeing challenges as stepping stones to vision
19:29 – Simple reflection questions for couples
20:18 – The Hero’s Journey and your marriage
20:38 – Looking back on challenges with pride and strength
21:07 – Who you want to become vs. what you want to achieve
21:59 – Why connection is the most fulfilling outcome
22:22 – Final reminder: Best of Us 30-Day Challenge
23:16 – Closing encouragement + subscribe & review

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