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Aug 22
1h 43m

Fletcher

Unwell
About this episode

fletcher is here this week and we talk about what it means to write honestly about the people you’ve loved and sometimes lost and how terrifying it feels to put those stories into the world when everyone thinks they know who your songs are about

we get into queerness and music as a home for it the way her new album holds both heartbreak and joy at the same time and why telling the truth can be the most freeing thing even when it makes you want to hide under your bed

i also ask if she ever regrets being so raw in her lyrics and she reminds me that there’s power in being messy and human. enjoy love u

 

 

17:59 yearning

21:14 public relationships

23:40 ocd / mental health

31:43 new album

43:30 struggling with being public

48:45 changing your sexuality label

50:19 being shocked by liking a boy

56:22 falling in love with a girl

58:00 distance


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