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Aug 2025
1h 45m

Waiting (Again)

Dr. Peter McGraw
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What does it mean to wait—especially as a single person? In this re-release, Peter McGraw is joined by guest co-host Iris Schneider, a fellow Solo and behavioral scientist, to talk with sociologist Kinneret Lahad about the overlooked power of time in singlehood.


They explore how the relationship escalator shapes our perceptions of time and adulthood—particularly for women, who are often left waiting hopefully... or hopelessly. They also discuss how waiting can strip people of power, and why having a family is so often equated with moral virtue. Plus, they ask a big question: If becoming an adult means giving up childish things—like Peter Pan—why are we so quick to abandon joy? Iris’s answer might just blow your mind.


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