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Aug 20
41m 35s

Marriage, Mindset, and Change: How to Bu...

Marni Battista
About this episode

In this powerful conversation, I sit down with Dr. Corey Allan—husband, father, author, speaker, and seasoned marriage and family therapist—to unpack the truth about long-term love, personal growth, and staying connected through change. We go beyond surface-level advice to talk about what really keeps relationships alive, why personal responsibility is non-negotiable, and how to navigate shifts in yourself and your partner without losing the bond.

 


 

3 Main Takeaways:

  1. Face the relationship you have—not the one you wish you had.

  2. Personal growth will shift the relationship—be ready to adapt.

  3. Strong connections are built on presence, self-respect, and shared growth.

 


 

3 Main Topics with Timestamps, Citations, and Explanations:

1. Work with Who Your Partner Really Is (05:03)

"I'm fighting for the spouse I wish I had… rather than I'm actually working with who they are."

Explanation: Real progress comes when energy is spent on understanding and relating to the actual person in the relationship—flaws, strengths, and all—instead of chasing an idealized version that only exists in imagination.

 


 

2. Change in One Partner Shifts the Entire System (13:25)

"One person makes a change, so it's going to impact the system… The other person is left with a couple of choices."

Explanation: Every change—whether intentional growth, a lifestyle shift, or a new boundary—ripples through the relationship. How each person responds determines whether the bond strengthens, adapts, or drifts apart.

 


 

3. Presence Beats Time Quantity (33:25)

"My wife benefits… from 20 minutes of a hundred percent of my presence more than she does of an hour of 50% of my presence."

Explanation: Deep connection is built through focused, intentional engagement rather than simply being in the same space. Quality attention fuels emotional closeness far more than distracted time together.

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