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Jul 2025
38m 52s

How to Be in Love: Vanessa Williams: On ...

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With Rylan looking to find love again after experiencing the heartbreak of divorce, he turns to actor Vanessa Williams to find out if the breakdown of a marriage changes the way you view love. Vanessa discusses the lessons about love she has learnt from her three husbands, and her three divorces, and why she is celebrating her freedom and no longer making love her priority.

How to Be in Love – Rylan has loved passionately, lost messily, and is now ready to rediscover what ‘love’ is. But does he need to look at love differently before he can find it again?

Host: Rylan Assistant Producer: Ben Johns Producer: Katie Grant Production Manager: Francesca Bassett Executive Producer: Arron Fellows Music: Miguel d'Oliveira Assistant Commissioner: Will Drysdale Commissioning Editor: Rhian Roberts A Mindhouse production for BBC Sounds

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