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Aug 14
29m 42s

Navigating your blended family with Ron ...

Courtney DeFeo and Christian Parenting
About this episode

One of our listeners reached out about her need for resources for her blended family. I am so glad she did! This episode is for all of those navigated blended families and stepfamilies. I learned so much through this chat with Ron Deal and hope we all lean in to gather more understanding of all of God’s beautiful families. 


Ron L. Deal is a bestselling author, licensed marriage & family therapist, podcaster, and popular conference speaker who conducts “laugh and learn” marriage and family seminars and professional training around the country and online. He specializes in both marriage enrichment and stepfamily education.


Frequently featured in the national media, Ron has worked full-time in marriage and family ministry since 1988 serving in both local churches and with FamilyLife®. He currently serves as President of Smart Stepfamilies™ and Senior Director of FamilyLife Blended®, a division of FamilyLife®. He is the most widely read and viewed author on blended families in the country.


My favorite part is how Ron shares the complex nature of blended families but also gives hope! He reminds us that God is in this process and for your families. He also encourages parents to have patience for the timing of it all. Don’t give up! 


Enjoy!

Courtney 


(0:00 - 2:00)Introduction to Ron Deal

(2:01 - 10:00) The Complexity of Blended Families 

(10:01 - 18:00) Patience and Time in Family Bonding 

(18:01 - 25:00) Resources for Step-Parents 

(25:01 - 32:00) Ron’s Personal Journey 

(32:01 - 40:00) Mindful Marriage Book Discussion 

(40:01 - End) Closing Thoughts and Call to Action 


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Resources from today’s show:

Connect with Ron

Smart Stepfamilies - books and resources

Smart Stepfamilies - find a counselor 

Family Life Blended

The Mindful Marriage - new book and conferences

Right Now Media

Rachel & Rod Brown with Ron Deal (Family Life interview)

Clear Focus Bible for Kids


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