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Aug 12
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What It Means To Be Dateable w/ John Kim

Yue Xu and Julie Krafchick
About this episode

We're one week away from Season 21....so what else would we do but reminisce about our 21st birthdays as we usher in a new season of Dateable! But before the season begins, we're airing an episode we did with John Kim that talks about the complexities of modern dating, how cultural differences come into play, and the evolution of relationships in the digital age. We dive into the evolving definitions of love, the challenges of healthy relationships, share practical advice for becoming more dateable, and much more. 

Follow John @theangrytherapist, listen to The Angry Therapist Podcast, and check John's books 'Single. On Purpose' and 'Breakup. On Purpose"

Check out our other episodes we did with John Kim on Dateable:

S19E19: Breakup On Purpose

E12E12: Single On Purpose

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