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Aug 11
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241. The Mirror Test: How Self-Aware Are...

SUSAN CALLENDER
About this episode

How shocked were you by your last performance review? If the feedback felt like it came out of nowhere, you might have some self-awareness blind spots that are silently sabotaging your career progress.

What I'm Covering:

  • The shocking truth that only 10-15% of people are actually self-aware (despite 95% thinking they are)
  • Why your analytical superpowers can create blind spots when it comes to reading social situations
  • The real career cost of communication patterns you don't even realize you have
  • How to debug your interpersonal operating system using skills you already possess

The Analytical Professional Paradox:

If you can spot patterns in data from a mile away but miss when your colleague's body language shifts during your explanations, you're experiencing the disconnect between technical brilliance and social awareness.

Common "If This, Then That" Scenarios:

  • If you're constantly re-explaining things → there's a gap between what you think you're communicating and what people receive
  • If people seem resistant to your input despite your expertise → your delivery might be making them feel defensive
  • If you keep getting passed over for leadership roles → you might be missing the emotional component of professional interactions

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