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Aug 11
1h 24m

What I Wish I Knew in My 20s

Mel Robbins
About this episode

This is a conversation you need to hear, packed with life advice that will change your future. 

It’s what Mel wishes she knew in her 20s and the insight helping her guide her kids right now. 

Today, Mel sits down with Dr. Meg Jay. Dr. Jay is a clinical psychologist, professor, and bestselling author of THE book about your 20s: The Defining Decade. 

The New York Times called Dr. Jay "the patron saint" of 20-somethings, and today, you’re getting a coaching session with her. 

This episode is a wake up call, one backed by

research and real-life stories, that will help you stop panicking, start problem-solving, and take control of your future, no matter what age you are. 

In this episode, you’ll learn: 

-The best advice no one ever told you about your 20s 

-The biggest mistakes most people make in work and love—and how to avoid them 

-Why 30 is not the new 20—and what’s actually at stake when you wait to “figure it out later” 

-Exactly what to do to support any 20 something in your life 

-Specific advice for college students and parents of college students 

Whether you’re in your 20s, wish you’d done them differently, or love someone going through them, this episode gives you the wisdom and tools you need to build the life you want. 

The truth is that no matter what decade of your life you are in, you can make it the best one – and this advice will help you do it. 

For more resources, click here for the podcast episode page. 

If you liked the episode, check out this one next: Feeling Lost in Your 20s? You Need to Hear This

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