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Aug 10
29m 6s

When Things Don't go According to Plan -...

Jocelin Lillienau
About this episode

What do you do when your biggest goal slips through your fingers? When something that should be easy just falls apart?

In this raw and real episode, I share a personal story after a surprise elimination at a 2* event that derailed my path to the 7-year-old World Championships. Alongside Lorna, we unpack what it really means to reframe a “failure” and keep moving forward with clarity and confidence.

In this episode, we talk about:

  • The emotional rollercoaster of watching your goals slip away
  • Why riding “a level down” doesn’t always mean an easy round
  • How complacency and expectations can quietly sabotage performance
  • The danger of letting your ego (or Instagram!) define your self-worth
  • My powerful 3-step post-competition reflection process
  • What to do when you see someone else succeed at your goal
  • Why setbacks don’t mean you're not good enough, they just mean you're growing

If you’ve ever:

  • Felt blindsided by a disappointing competition
  • Wondered if you should just stop setting goals altogether
  • Struggled to bounce back when things don’t go to plan
  • Compared your messy middle to someone else’s perfect highlight reel... …

then this episode will meet you exactly where you are, and show you how to shift.

Resources Mentioned:

🧠 Receive our weekly mindset & performance hacks: mindeq.eu/weeklyhacks
💌 Email the team: info@mindeq.eu

Follow us on Instagram: www.instagram.com/jocelinlillienau

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