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Aug 3
19m 43s

Competitive without Getting Caught up in...

Jocelin Lillienau
About this episode

Are you stuck between riding for growth and riding for results? Not sure when it’s the right time to push your performance without sacrificing your mindset? This episode is for YOU.

This week, I and Lorna dive deep into one of the biggest mindset dilemmas riders face: 👉 When do you stop just focusing on the process and start showing up to be competitive, on purpose?

Whether you’ve been playing it safe in the ring or struggling to get that last 10% out of yourself, this conversation will shift your thinking and ignite your inner competitor (without the toxic pressure).

In this episode, we explore:

  • How to tell when your mindset and skills are solid enough to start competing with purpose
  • What the “Wall of Confidence” really is, and how to make sure yours doesn’t collapse under pressure
  • Why performance plateaus often signal the need to increase the challenge, not ease off
  • How to push your limits without focusing on the result
  • The secret to getting into flow state more consistently
  • Why a bigger canter (not a bigger fence!) could be your next breakthrough
  • What to do when you're stuck in the “messy middle” of growth

Resources Mentioned:

🧠 Receive our weekly mindset & performance hacks: mindeq.eu/weeklyhacks
🐎 Apply for coaching with us: mindeq.eu/coaching

Follow us on instagram: www.instagram.com/jocelinlillienau

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