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Jul 30
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The Narcissist Expert: How To Spot Them,...

DR. MICHAEL GERVAIS
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What if some of the traits that drive high performance – are also at the very core of narcissism? 

This week on Finding Mastery, we welcome clinical psychologist and narcissism expert Dr. Ramani Durvasula to explore one of the most complex psychological dynamics of our time.

Narcissism isn’t always loud or obvious. Dr. Ramani breaks down how narcissism lives on a spectrum, from subtle manipulation and gaslighting to full-blown disorders, and how it shows up in high performers, workplaces, relationships, and even within ourselves.

In this conversation, we explore:

  • The 4 major types of narcissism and how gender influences their expression
  • Why high achievers may unknowingly enable narcissistic tendencies
  • How to recognize gaslighting, and why we often miss it
  • Her 5-step framework for managing narcissistic relationships
  • The cost of constantly accommodating others at the expense of your own wellbeing


This conversation is a must-listen for anyone navigating tough personalities, leadership challenges, or recovering from emotionally confusing relationships. Dr. Ramani’s insights are practical, powerful, and grounded in decades of research and clinical experience.

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