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Breaking the Cycle: Dr. Amelia Kelley An...

Dr. Amelia Kelley
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Key Takeaways:

  • Sensitivity can be both innate and shaped by trauma; both can coexist.
  • Highly sensitive people absorb their environment more deeply, making trauma and gaslighting more impactful.
  • Gaslighting creates a destabilizing feeling; overthinking, while mentally exhausting, feels different and more internalized.
  • Intermittent rewards and euphoric recall explain why we sometimes miss people who hurt us.
  • HSPs and neurodivergent individuals may unintentionally attract narcissists due to their deep empathy and adaptability.
  • Masking your sensitivity over time can lead to disconnection from your authentic self—Dr. Kelley shares how to reconnect.
  • Healing from gaslighting starts with reconnecting to your voice through rest, play, and safe relationships.
  • Sensitivity is not fragility—it’s a heightened awareness that can be a superpower when properly understood.
  • Therapists should learn to differentiate between mental health diagnoses and sensitivity or neurodivergence for better treatment outcomes.

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