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Lewis Howes
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Martha Higareda Howes, my beautiful wife, joins me to break down the relationship principles that transformed our marriage preparation process. We dive deep into "13 Things Mentally Strong Couples Don't Do" by Amy Morin, sharing raw stories about boundary setting, emotional weaponization, and the dangerous trap of trying to fix your partner. Martha opens up about overcoming patterns from a previous narcissistic relationship and learning to communicate without walking on eggshells. You'll walk away with the exact tools we use to have conversations that actually strengthen our bond instead of tearing it apart.

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In this episode you will learn:

  • How ignoring small problems creates massive resentment and the simple phrase that stops this pattern
  • The difference between healthy boundaries and people-pleasing that destroys relationships
  • Why trying to fix your partner puts you above them and creates mutual resentment
  • How to communicate emotions without weaponizing them through conscious conflict resolution
  • The appreciation formula that makes both partners want to give more in the relationship

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