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Jul 1
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S20E22: The Perfect Partner Equation

Yue Xu and Julie Krafchick
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What if we were to tell you there's a way to find the right partner that doesn't feel like you're looking for a needle in a haystack where you will absolutely never settle. In our season finale, we saved one our favorite topics from our book 'How to Be Dateable': our perfect partner equation. We discuss the three core components of this equation, how they're different than your typical list, and why we believe it's entirely possible for you to find someone perfectly imperfect for you. Enjoy!

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