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Jun 2025
22m 59s

Facing The Mirror: Dealing With Your Sha...

Connor Beaton
About this episode

Talking points: relationships, the shadow, psychology

Every man casts a shadow, regardless of how much of "the work" he's done. But whether or not you let it negatively impact your relationships is up to you. Listen in for what shadow work actually means for your relationships, and straightforward advice on how to get started.


(00:00:00) - Intro and the biggest misconception about shadow work

(00:03:57) - How the shadow can manifest in a relationship

(00:08:40) - But WHY does this happen?

(00:12:12) - Tips for shadow awareness in your relationship

(00:18:19) - Last but not least: accountability, and what integration means

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