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Jun 2025
10m 50s

Ep. 295 - The realistic trap that’s keep...

Breakup Coach Dorothy
About this episode

Whether you're day one or year three post-breakup, there's an invisible trap keeping you playing small that has nothing to do with your ex. You're making "realistic" choices that keep you trapped in a life that's fine but not extraordinary. In this episode, Dorothy reveals why asking "What's realistic?" is the ceiling blocking your bigger life and shares the simple question shift that opens up possibilities you can't even see right now. Plus, get the Possibility Audit challenge that will show you exactly where you've been limiting yourself and how to break free. If you're ready to stop settling for what seems "realistic" and start building what's actually possible, this episode changes everything.

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