We often rush to offer solutions when a loved one expresses emotional distress, not because we don't care, but because it's uncomfortable to witness pain—both theirs and our own. While advice and plans may seem helpful, skipping over empathy and validation can make others feel dismissed or misunderstood. In this episode, the hosts unpack why we default to fi ... Show More
Oct 2025
A Little Happier: A Story from Real Life: Sometimes, We Help Best by Hanging Back
Sometimes, helping can hurt. When people are struggling, our impulse is to try to pull them back on their feet, when what they really need is for someone to sit beside them and ask, "What do you need? What can I do?" Get in touch: podcast@gretchenrubin.com Visit Gretchen's websit ... Show More
4m 9s
Sep 2025
They’ve Stopped Trying? Don’t Chase Do THIS Instead!
Do you ever feel like you’re giving too much in your relationships? In this week’s episode, Matthew, Audrey, and Stephen tackle the exhausting cycle of overgiving and people-pleasing in love. You’ll discover why so many people feel the need to be “perfect” to keep someone around, ... Show More
1h 4m
Jan 2021
Obsessive, Compulsive, & in Love
Today's episode is all about the need to talk things through with friends and family, and how that can lead to crucial help and healing. Whether it's compulsive behavior that requires professional guidance, or a distinctly The Office-esque love triangle that should be nipped in t ... Show More
47m 50s
Apr 2023
Exploring Codependency, with Sam
The feeling you have with someone is a feeling that they're often trying to discharge or not accept in themselves. Sam and Robin answer questions about helping your partner when they’re having problems with work, feeling codependent in romantic relationships, and how to use mindf ... Show More
36m 4s
