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Jun 13
30m 38s

If Your Life Hasn’t Gone to Plan — This ...

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About this episode

What part of your life feels off track right now?

Have you been listening more to your fear or your intuition?

Today, Jay explores what it means to lose control—and why that may be exactly where transformation begins. When plans fall apart and expectations go unmet, the mind defaults to self-blame and shame. But Jay offers a different perspective: perhaps this is not failure, but the unplanned beginning of something better.

Guided by his background in monkhood and supported by research from neuroscience and psychology, Jay introduces six transformative practices for navigating life’s plot twists with intention and grace. He explains how to distinguish between the loud voice of the inner critic and the quiet wisdom of intuition, why guilt and shame block growth, and how letting go of the illusion of control can create space for something far greater than imagined.

In this episode, you'll learn:

How to Quiet Your Inner Critic 

How to Reframe Failure as Redirection

How to Speak to Yourself with Kindness

How to Respond to Setbacks Instead of Resisting Them

How to Stay Grounded When the Plan Falls Apart

How to Let Curiosity Lead You Forward, Not Fear

Control isn’t about perfect plans, it’s about presence. And what seems like an ending might just be the beginning of a more meaningful path.

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

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What We Discuss:

00:00 Intro

00:43 Is Life Not Going According to Plan?

02:47 Step #1: Learn to Pause Your Active Inner Critic

11:03 Step #2: Let Go of the Control Illusion

20:39 Step #3: Reframe Failure as Redirection

22:19 Step #4: Use the Tiny Wins Framework

24:28 Step #5: Expect the Plot Twists

27:23 Step #6: Let Curiosity Lead You Forward

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