Ep 141. Do you know your top five values? Or even your top three? Often, we think we are making decisions based on our values, but we may be unknowingly making decisions based on our fears. This week, Dr. Molly Burrets, a highly regarded licensed clinical psychologist and professor at the University of Southern California (USC), is breaking down the psychology behind values-based decision-making. If you're someone who often feels at odds when making decisions, like two parts of your brain are arguing and pulling apart from each other? Dr. Molly expertly explains what is happening on a psychological level and how to break the cycle we often find ourselves in when fear creeps into our decision-making. She breaks down the dynamics of control – why we seek control to gain safety and how this can hinder our ability to attain genuine connection in our relationships. Her insights on the pursuit of safety, with control leading to hypervigilance, were truly one of those moments on the podcast that will stop you in your tracks. Dr. Molly is truly brilliant with unwavering emotional intelligence. She breaks down everything from learning your no's to why high-achieving women often struggle with connection. This episode is for anyone who has ever had to make a difficult decision and wondered or doubted if they made the right choice.
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The life-changing knowledge that things are going to go wrong, why practicing radical acceptance in place of avoidance could change your life
Why do we often take control in an attempt to gain safety? Is it possible to experience joy and control simultaneously?
How to quiet your mind to notice what is meant to you in life – the phone is constantly ringing, but we have to learn to pick up.
Breaking down why our unhealthy coping mechanisms are often what is preventing us from following the path that is meant for us in life
The importance of noticing your own body daily and learning how to listen to what it is telling you
Tangible language to use when exercising a "no" with both the relationships we want to keep and relationships we want to let go of
Why using safe people to practice our "no's" is the key to setting larger boundaries in life.
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