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May 24
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Jerry Wise: Break the Family Trance to E...

Lewis Howes
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"The narcissist loves you and they have a plan for your life, and you better follow it... or else." - Jerry Wise

Jerry Wise reveals the hidden patterns that keep us locked in cycles of dysfunction, introducing the powerful concept of "malignant normalcy" - how we unknowingly accept toxic behaviors as normal simply because they're familiar. With decades of experience helping clients recognize narcissistic family systems, Wise explains that the most damaging aspect isn't the obvious symptoms like screaming or control, but rather the unbroken "family trance" that silently programs our relationships and self-perception.

Beyond identifying narcissistic traits like lack of empathy, controlling behaviors, and an inability to apologize, Wise offers profound insight into breaking generational patterns. He challenges listeners to look beyond surface-level dysfunction to address the deeper "emotional WiFi" transmitted across generations. This conversation provides a roadmap for those struggling to understand why they repeat destructive patterns despite their best intentions, offering hope that with awareness comes the power to finally break the cycle.

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