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May 22
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Aging is Optional: Rewriting Menopause |...

Tess Masters
About this episode

Over 40 and feeling invisible? Shavita Kotak, author of Seven Wonders Of Menopause, shares why midlife isn’t a period of decline, but a divine invitation to listen to your body, ask for what you need, and go after what you want.   

Shavita recounts how growing up in London in a traditional Indian family had her feeling trapped between two worlds, aching to veer away from the expected path.   

After traveling the world, studying with healers and living in ashrams in India, she settled in Australia to raise her family. Even with all she’d learned, the emotional and energetic unravelling that came with perimenopause blindsided her.  

A decade of reading medical research, embracing ancient teachings, and seeking the counsel of female luminaries helped her welcome menopause as a sacred rite of passage. This perspective shift became a gateway to greater liberation and joy, and to her calling—empowering other women to seize opportunity in this life transition. 

Shavita emphasizes the importance of self-care practices, and walks us through how to tune into our cycles and seasons, and see physical symptoms as signposts for what to say no to in order to say yes to what matters.   

We celebrate the wisdom of age, the value of elders, and our responsibility to share feminine wisdom. Claiming our roles as community leaders, we can break ancestral cycles and drive generational change.   

Shavita says: Menopause is about letting go of who you’ve been taught to be, and honoring who you are today. 

 

TESS’S TAKEAWAYS: 

  • Menopause is not the end women dread, it’s a gateway to your greatest power. 
  • Aging doesn’t mean disappearing; it’s an opportunity to upgrade your value and intuition.  
  • Cultivate a daily practice of asking your body what it needs and honoring the answer.  
  • Use your menopause symptoms as a guide for what you’ve suppressed. 
  • Saying “no” can be a sacred act of love that leads to the right “yes” for everybody.   
  • Honor female elders and take your place in sharing feminine wisdom.  
  • Sacred women’s circles support healing through shared experiences. 
  • Use menopause to soften within yourself and be in the flow of your life.  

 

ABOUT SHAVITA 

As a yoga teacher, wellness educator, and author of Seven Wonders Of Menopause, Shavita Kotak helps midlife women embrace their rite of passage with curiosity, courage, and confidence.  

In her former career as a financial planner, Shavita used self-care and spiritual practices to balance the hustle culture of her corporate job and find balance and fulfillment. Now she helps other women do the same.  

After two decades of immersion in ancient traditions, and study at ashrams in India, Shavita now leads retreats, women’s circles, and sound healing sessions to create sacred spaces where women share, grow, and support each other.  

CONNECT WITH SHAVITA 

Website: https://shavitakotak.com/ 

Book: https://www.amazon.com/Seven-Wonders-Menopause-Mother-Wake-Up/dp/176370422X/ 

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@wombwisdomwithshavita 

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/womb_wisdom_with_shavita 

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