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Jul 2024
38m 40s

13. Girlhood, Shame, and Self-Optimizati...

Anna Howard | Podcast Strategist
About this episode

Girlhood is a state of constant embarrassment. Not to mention the feeling that you're just...always in trouble? So how the hell are we supposed to become well-adjusted adults when most of us have been raised to have a deep shame rooted in our bones?


Well today, I've got Hailey Noecker, self-published author that's absolutely killing it on Substack right now and a prevention specialist for a child advocacy nonprofit.


We're chatting about:

  • How working in child advocacy has made Hailey think about her own childhood differently
  • What it means to reclaim your youth in adulthood
  • The fig tree analogy (of course, you know me)
  • Why our obsession with self-optimization can be debilitating


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