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May 18
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133 - How to Turn Anger Into Compassion ...

Alastair Duhs
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For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.

Compassion can be a game changer when it comes to managing anger.

In this episode, anger management expert Alastair Duhs shares a powerful story about a man named James, who almost let his rage take over in a hospital parking lot. But instead of acting on his anger, James had a moment of realisation that completely shifted his perspective.

Understanding what others might be going through can help calm the storm of anger. By asking oneself what might be happening for someone else, you can create better responses and stronger relationships.

Listen to learn how compassion is a key tool to transform anger into understanding.

Key Takeaways:

  • Understanding that anger often stems from misunderstanding situations can help immensely.
  • Compassion is a powerful tool that can transform anger into understanding and calmness.
  • When anger rises, pause and consider what the other person might be going through.
  • Assuming the worst in others can lead to explosive anger and regrettable actions.
  • Recognising that everyone has their struggles can help you respond with compassion instead of anger.
  • Choosing to respond with empathy rather than reacting in anger can save relationships.

Links referenced in this episode:

For more information (and FREE resources) of how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.

For a FREE training on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com/training/.

To learn more about The Complete Anger Management System, visit angersecrets.com/course/.

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