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May 13
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#269 How to Forgive with Dara McKinley

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In today’s episode, I’m chatting with forgiveness expert Dara McKinley. We’re tackling a topic that’s come up a lot in breakups but rarely gets broken down: how do you actually forgive?

Dara shares her personal story about searching for step-by-step advice on forgiveness and realizing that most resources only tell us why we "should" forgive—and not how. Together, we unpack common misconceptions, like thinking forgiveness means excusing someone’s behavior, and explore why it’s really about finding peace for yourself.

We touch on the importance of timing, self-forgiveness, and why forgiveness is a tool for your own healing, not something that lets anyone else off the hook. If you’re struggling with resentment after a breakup or are just feeling stuck, this episode is for you. And if you want to go deeper, Dara’s “How to Forgive” course is available now!

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