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May 2025
49m 24s

I Waited for You to be Ready but Now I’m...

Esther Perel Global Media
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They were in love for 6 years and building a life together. They froze embryos and agreed on a timeline for getting pregnant. But when the time came, he wavered, and the relationship fell apart. Now she finds herself alone, angry, scared, and having to rethink her definition of family. She asks Esther, how she can remain hopeful when everything feels so lost ... Show More
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