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May 2025
14m 56s

You're Not in Love—You're Just Afraid to...

Andrew Ferebee
About this episode

You didn't fall in love—you fell into a coping mechanism with a heartbeat.

This episode strips away the fantasy and exposes the brutal truth: what you're calling "love" is often just fear in disguise. Fear of being alone. Fear of facing the silence.

If you keep chasing women to avoid your own reflection, you'll never know real love—just repeated self-abandonment.
This isn't heartbreak—it's ego death.
And it's your wake-up call.

Listen now—because the man who can sit in silence… is finally ready to lead.

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