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May 6
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#478 Five assertiveness watch outs (and ...

THE SQUIGGLY CAREER
About this episode

Assertiveness isn’t a tick-box skill or a one-size-fits-all tone. In this episode, Helen and Sarah unpack 5 common “assertiveness watch-outs” — sneaky habits that can undermine your message without you even realising it. Whether you tend to over-explain, over-apologize, or overdo your energy, you’ll walk away with practical tools to lead more effectively.


00:00 What is assertiveness?

05:05 What's your assertiveness watch out?

07:30 Mistake 1 - Too much talking

09:17 Assertive statements

12:51 Mistake 2 - Over-caveating

15:40 Using 'I' statements

17:07 Mistake 3 - All about me

19:26 Directing conversations

21:17 Mistake 4 - Energy overloads

23:34 Mirroring enough

25:39 The robot risk


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