Hey Lifers!
Welcome back to ask uncut where we answer all of your deep and burning questions!
First up today, thank you so much for the beautiful and encouraging messages we have received about Laura and Matt’s incoming baby girl!! We have a chat about having ‘another’ girl.
Huge shout out to the entrepreneurial mums out there that are working to the productivity limits!
Vibes for the week:
Britt - You Season 5 on Netflix
Keeshia - Commbank Travel Money Card
Laura - PW Pantry Recipes
Then we jump into your questions!
NAVIGATING EX AND NEW PARTNER AROUND MY SON
5 months ago my fiancé and I broke up, we have a 1.5 year old boy together and are doing our best to stay ‘civil’ for our child. When we broke up my ex asked that I introduce any new partners/ potential step dads to him (my ex) before I introduce him to our son. I agreed and asked for the same in return. But, I recently met a really nice guy who has major potential to be in my future, but it has me thinking that I want to experience what he is like around/with my son before I tell my ex that I’m seeing someone. I have mixed emotions as I do understand where my ex is coming from, but I also don’t want to have to tell my ex when I’m ‘seeing’ someone as this could potentially happen again, and again (if this guy doesn’t work out). Please help a girl out, what do you think is the best option? I’m happy to have the conversation with my ex if the situation needs to change but I genuinely don’t know what to do.
HARMLESS CRUSH WHEN MARRIED - NORMAL?
I got married recently and adore my husband. I can't fault our relationship at all! However, I'm a nurse at a hospital and have found myself attracted to one of the surgeons at work. I've always thought he is a massive DILF, but I've found myself recently thinking about him even when I'm not at work. I would NEVER act on these feelings at all, I genuinely think they are just like an attraction/lust because he's sexy. We do work together a bit, and I found myself excited when he comes in to see his patients or when I'm assisting in theatre with a surgery for one of his patients. My question is, IS THIS NORMAL? Is it just like a harmless little crush/sort of like a forbidden fruit or fantasy because I know nothing will ever happen? (He is also married/has kids). It also feels sort of wrong thinking about him when I'm not at work? Any advice is appreciated!!
PS I don't want to tell my husband about this at all because even though it's harmless I know it will upset him/maybe cause a rift in a relationship for literally no reason! I just want your thoughts about why I keep thinking about this Doctor?!? (And when I say thoughts , they are mostly sexual lol which makes me think it's just a weird fantasy).
IS IT RUDE NOT TO WISH KIDS HAPPY BIRTHDAY THESE DAYS?
Are ‘Happy Birthdays’ still a thing!? My son just turned 2 and I’m a little upset at the lack of friends and family that actually took the time to message me / call to see him and say happy birthday. My partner seems to think that life just gets busy and people sometimes remember but then forget to do anything about it. But I think that if someone really means something to you then they have no excuse to make the effort?!? The OTT me makes me not want to take my son to see these people, particularly family members who can’t even say happy birthday to him…. Obviously I would never do that but still. I just feel sad for him and I'm not really sure why!!
HUSBAND WANTS SEX DAILY - HOW DO I APPROACH THIS?
My husband and I have been together for 5 years. When we first started dating we had a great sex life. Overtime I have found that my sex drive has lowered while his is still extremely high. He thinks we have to have sex EVERY day and complains if we miss a day or two, says “he can’t remember the last time we did it” and then wants to play “catch up” and have it multiple times the next day we have sex (which isn’t often given it’s hard to let a day go by without it). I have tried to tell him it’s completely normal to only have sex a few times or week (or at least not everyday) but he won’t have a bar of it. He says I should feel lucky to have a husband who finds me so attractive. He gets hard every time we are in bed together. But all I want sometimes is to just have a cuddle and watch tv without him getting his thing out and the expectation of what’s to follow that. I don’t know how to raise with him because I don’t want sex every single day.
I’ve tried jokingly saying it, I try to tell him I’m too tired and try to get out of it when he starts to initiate but at the end of the day I don’t want to hurt his feelings and reject him. I find him attractive and I want to have sex but not as often as he does. It’s exhausting.
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