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Sep 2024
1h 10m

Jealousy as a Pathway to Intimacy: Joli ...

International School of Temple Arts
About this episode

It’s a situation straight out of the movies, or a teen magazine: jealousy causing a rift between two lovers. It could be as simple as your partner mentioning getting close to one of their co-workers, or as complex as negotiating the ups and downs of an open relationship. No matter how big or small the circumstance, or how experienced the people involved, jealousy can come on strong!


In this episode, researcher and self-described relationship counsellor “for people who color outside the lines,” Joli Hamilton, talks with Usha Rose about how jealousy can be an incredible force for growth, pleasure, and increased connection in your romantic relationships. 


They focus on how to create non-monogamous partnerships without shrinking away from the difficult feelings they can bring up. These are feelings Hamilton knows well. She had been in only monogamous relationships until having a sudden awakening into the possibility of relating with more than one person at once. 


And in her research, Hamilton has found that the people who have the most successful experience with non-monogamy know how to notice the sensations of jealousy and then name it. This, she says, is one of the first things we can do to embrace non-monogamy in a supportive way. 


They also discuss: 

  • Five steps for processing jealous feelings

  • How jealousy relates to shame and fear

  • The archetypal nature of jealousy

  • Paying attention to the way jealousy arises in the body

  • Creating relationship agreements to care for each other through jealousy

  • The unique pleasure of jealousy


We hope you enjoy the episode!

To learn more about Jolie, follow her on social media: @drjoliehamilton

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