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Apr 2025
1h 47m

98: From Boundaries to Attachment: The U...

Patrick & Abby
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Abby and Patrick are joined by writer and artist Lily Scherlis for a provocative reflection on the ideological subtexts, historical contexts, and real-world value of some of our moment’s most bandied-about concepts and terms. Beginning with her 2023 essay for Parapraxis, “Boundary Issues: How Boundaries became the Rule for Mental Health – and Everything Else,” the interview spotlights Scherlis’s nuanced yet relentless interrogation of how the vocabularies of research psychology have proliferated across popular culture and have become ubiquitous in the workplace, in bestsellers, on social media, and in our most intimate interactions. What exactly are “boundaries,” when did having (or not having) them become such an issue, and how does their invocation function? Touching on themes and topics across Scherlis’s body of work, from CBT and DBT to the legacy of Dale Carnegie and beyond, the conversation builds to a consideration of the case of attachment theory. Unpacking the history, key concepts, and findings of this interdisciplinary field of study, Abby, Patrick, and Lily explore how its terms and categories have become so central to a cottage industry of online quizzes and therapeutic interventions. How do ideas of self-improvement and self-help relate to economic shifts in modes of production, material realities of employment precarity, and our felt sense of being together – and being alienated? What work do these terms do in the abstract, and what work are we as subjects expected to do in learning and using them? And how can we square our skepticism vis-à-vis such models and vocabularies with the traction they can give us when it comes to understanding ourselves, tolerating distress, navigating a difficult world, potentially changing our circumstances, and connecting with one another?

Selected texts cited:

Lily Scherlis, “Boundary Issues: How Boundaries became the Rule for Mental Health – and Everything Else”

Lily Scherlis, “Skill Issues: Dialectical Behavioral Therapy and Its Discontents”

Lily Scherlis, “Going Soft: Future Proofing the American Worker”

Danielle Carr, “Don’t Be So Attached to Attachment Theory”

Robert Karen, Becoming Attached: First Relationships and How They Shape Our Ability to Love

Heidi Keller. The Myth of Attachment Theory A Critical Understanding for Multicultural Societies

Ruth O'Shaughnessy, Rudi Dallos, Katherine Berry, and Karen Bateson. Attachment Theory: The Basics

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