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Apr 25
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Saving the Lost Girl with Kelly Jean Tor...

MONIQUE KOVEN
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In this conversation, host Monique Koven and author and survivor Kelly Jean Torres discuss the profound themes of trauma, healing, and the complexities of relationships stemming from Kelly's memoir, 'Saving the Lost Girl.' They explore Kelly's early life experiences, including her adoption, the abuse she faced in foster care, and the impact of these experiences on her self-worth and relationships as an adult. The discussion emphasizes the importance of therapy, the ongoing journey of healing, and the power of storytelling to reclaim one's narrative and foster understanding in others.

takeaways

  • Kelly's memoir is a raw and authentic account of her life.
  • The impact of childhood trauma can persist into adulthood.
  • Isolation in foster care can exacerbate feelings of worthlessness.
  • Therapy can help individuals process trauma and rebuild self-worth.
  • Relationships can be complicated for trauma survivors, often leading to codependency.
  • Understanding one's triggers is crucial for healing.
  • Empowerment comes from reclaiming one's story and sharing it with others.
  • The foster care system often fails to protect vulnerable children.
  • Shame can stem from a lack of validation and support during childhood.
  • Healing is a continuous journey that requires self-reflection and growth.


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