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Apr 2025
1h 26m

Relationships 2.0: Why Did You Do That?

Hidden Brain, Shankar Vedantam
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As we go through life, we’re constantly trying to figure out what other people are thinking and feeling. Psychologist Liane Young says this ability to assess other people’s thoughts ​is an extraordinary feat of cognition. This week, in a favorite episode from our archives, we explore this mental superpower — and how it can lead us astray. Then, we welcome ba ... Show More
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