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Apr 2025

17m 33s

#257: Restraint Collapse After the Schoo...

Kim John Payne/Center for Social Sustainability

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In this episode we discuss the concept of restraint collapse and the need for decompression points to help children manage their stress. Kim also emphasizes the importance of setting up a predictable and structured after-school rhythms to ease restraint collapse. Additionally, Kim suggested incorporating decompression points and providing a calm environment to help children manage their stress and anxiety during the school day.

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