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Apr 2025
23m 51s

Is Pressure Making Your Decisions for Yo...

Susie Tomenchok
About this episode

You’re moving fast, juggling priorities, and doing your best to meet expectations—but whose expectations are they, really? If you’ve ever found yourself reacting instead of leading, or pushing forward without checking in on what you actually want, this episode is for you.

We’re unpacking the subtle ways pressure shows up in our lives—how it influences our decisions, disconnects us from our values, and impacts how we lead and communicate. This isn’t about staying calm in high-stress moments—it’s about becoming aware of the quiet, constant pressure that shapes how we show up. I’ll walk you through ways to interrupt that cycle, realign with what matters most, and lead from a place of clarity and choice.

In This Episode, I’ll Cover:

  1. How internal pressure can quietly distort your decisions.
  2. The signs you’re operating from proving mode, not power.
  3. How to interrupt pressure and return to aligned leadership.

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Remember, negotiation is more than a skill—it’s a mindset.
💕Susie
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