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Apr 2025
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You're Not Needy, You're Just Unapprecia...

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Fan Favorite: This episode originally aired on April 7, 2021. What up, homies! It's your girl Lisa Bilyeu, and welcome back to the Women of Impact podcast, where we delve into the deep and powerful conversations that can change your life. Today, I'm beyond excited to chat with the brilliant and inspiring love therapist, Jordan Green!


If you've ever found yourself questioning your worth or wondering if you're enough, especially in the realms of relationships, you're in the right place. Jordan Green, a licensed therapist, life coach, and speaker with a heart dedicated to mental wellness and creating healthy, loving relationships, joins us to explore the natural human need for validation and how it impacts us all.


We're diving deep into the nuances of seeking validation. It’s not just about needing approval—it's about understanding what makes us feel seen, heard, and valued. In today's episode, Jordan breaks down how we can balance validating ourselves while also embracing the validation that naturally comes from our relationships. We tackle the tough stuff like criticism, contempt, stonewalling, and defensiveness, showing you how to build a relationship that thrives.


So grab your journal and pen, because Jordan is here to equip us with actionable steps to strengthen how we see ourselves and transform our relationships. It's packed with insights you can start applying today!


SHOWNOTES

00:00 Introduction to Validation

00:12 Relationship Challenges and Validation

00:58 Needing to Be Seen and Valued

01:48 Welcome Jordan Green

02:44 Discovering Personal Strengths

03:31 Building Self-Esteem Before Relationships

03:57 Self-Affirmations and Love Letters

04:26 Courage and Self-Love

04:48 Balancing Self-Worth and Relationship Dynamics

05:35 Importance of Validation in Relationships

06:16 Understanding Need for Validation

06:59 Addressing Self-Esteem Issues

07:41 External vs. Internal Validation

08:18 Keeping Balance in Relationships

08:50 Interdependence in Relationships

09:37 Communication Styles and Relationship Predictions

13:18 Importance of Positive Interactions


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